Why aren’t you married yet?
Friday, July 22nd, 2005Recentlly, some of the my relatives from the States flew in for a short vacation in the Phils. Siempre, being the Filipinos that we are, we had a series of reunions. At dahil nga Pilipino tayo, when my relatives saw me, the first question that they asked was, "Wala ka pa bang balak magasawa? Di ba kaya ka nagpapayat kasi gusto mo ng magkaboyfriend?"
Boy, was I really dumbfounded. Most people tend to equate "pagpapaganda" to "para magkaboyfriend o para magkaasawa". Kelan pa pinagbawal sa saligang batas ng Pilipinas ang magpapayat para sa sariling kalusugan. But just the same, I understand how my relatives feel. I cannot consider myself young anymore. At 31, I should have at least two kids by now and a husband in tow. But with the way marriages of people my age end up, you’d think a hundred, a million times before taking the plunge. Nandyan yung magboyfriend sila for seven years and when they got married, my friend just learned that her husband had three kids with three women. Tatlong panganay! And as expected, they parted ways with her 3 months on the way. Talk of lifetime commitment.
I have not found the man who would stand up for me, or yet, he has not found me. :) All the men I meet are either dorks, liars or slackers. Kung talagang desperado ako, I would’ve opted to go for any of these men. But I have accepted my fate. I may or may not marry and that’s perfectly fine with me. I have been saving up for the rainy days. Sabi ko nga sa Dyos, di na bale sigurong wala akong boyfriend o di na ako magkakaasawa basta magkaron na lang ako ng magandang career para makaipon sa aking katandaan. How dramatic, but realistic. I am still hoping for the day that I will have my own family, but for now, I am enjoying the company of friends and family. And besides, I cannot afford to have my heart broken again. My last relationship did not exactly end up on a good note and I don’t want to go thru that again. Mamahalin ko na lang yung badminton racket ko. It may not be able to reciprocate my love, but at least, di naman ako sasaktan.
So why am I not married yet? Wag na, maging telenobela pa to.