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My bestfriend and I had dinner the other night and were discussing things at work when she suddenly blurted out that her officemates seem to gang up on her.  She has done everything that she could, from apologizing profusely to talking to her teammates but to no avail.  Knowing how nice she is, I understand where she’s coming from but as I always say, different strokes for different folks.  You can’t please everybody.

She wanted to share her sentiments with me as she knew that I was going thru the same thing.  But the difference is that I have practiced the art of "deadma".

I used to be Ms. Amity, Ms. Congeniality, Friendship and there was a time they called me Popular Girl because of the so many friends I have.  It seems that I was a friend to everyone, small, big, rich, poor, and the list goes on.  But alas, all things must come to an end.  I learned in time that there are friends who are friends only when they need you and when they don’t need you anymore, they ditch you and dump you like a hot potato.  I have cried endlessly thinking of the efforts that I used to exert just to win them back…but as I said I have learned and I am coming back, with a silent vengeance.

I now keep a shield around me.  Sure, you would still see me around the corner, smiling, talking to people, giving solicited advice but I am now more wary of the people around me.  I carefully choose friends to keep and I am trying to keep it to a minimum.  And more importantly, when I hear things that aren’t exactly to my liking, just shrugging my shoulders and walking away has been my way of warding off nasty talks and the nasty people that spread them.

Reality is you cannot please everybody.  Some may have a very limited capacity to understand and to reach out to people.  I am very sensitive, true.  But keeping a shield around me has helped me cope with the negative elements surrounding me. I have heard others saying how bitchy I could be instead of outspoken, uber sensitive instead of understanding, "mayabang" instead of assertive.  But all things said, I have practiced the art of not minding what people have to say and just go on with life as if I heard nothing.  So what? Sila ba ang nagpapakain sa kin?  Mamamatay ba ko pag di nyo ko pinansin?  Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.  Say all you want but I am still keeping my head up high.  I am outspoken, assertive and confident.  Leave it at that.

So to you, friend, just do what you have to do.  We all breathe the same air anyway.  Mapapagod din ang mga yan, pero maganda ka pa rin….:) Gets?

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